High School was a bitch. And I'm not saying that because I had a horrible time in high school. What I am talking about is the drama. The drama that really kind of messed up a few relationships.
So, perhaps I should be saying that drama is a bitch. The drama in high school was a double whammy right to the gut. I'm sure we can all relate at one point or another. Looking back at it all, ten years later, we were all idiots. Our actions were fueled by crazy hormones, making us irrational in our choices. Things that were big deals back in high school are now looked upon as stupid, irrational thinking. As I look back now, I see all of the stupid mistakes I made along the way. While I don't regret most of them, as it has made me into what I am, I do wish I had make some different choices when it came to friends.
I've had the privilege of reconnecting with two people from high school. Two people I probably should have stayed friends with the whole time but due to drama, those relationships fell apart.
In high school, boyfriend drama caused a lot of problems. This is where it all starts, folks. Boys. They are trouble. Mix hormonal girls into it and it is a recipe for chaos. A truly strong friendship can fall apart when a good friend dates another friend's ex-boyfriend, because in high school land, that makes a girl go cray cray. And that girl was me. I'll admit it. I was really stupid in high school and when my one good friend started dating my ex-boyfriend, things started to go south. First off, while I may have broken up with the guy, I literally had a crush on him for four freaking years before we dated. Why...? I don't know. So, even though I broke up with him, it was harder to break my mind of that "crush" mindset. So, I started keeping my distance from her. To me, it was a betrayal. Hindsight is 20/20, so looking back I just shake my head in disgust. Stupid hormones causing issues.
So, time goes by and finally we reconnect. There have been many discussions about our "falling out" of sorts. Luckily, we have been able to pick up our friendship like we left it, but without all of the boy drama. I think we are better friends now. Maturity is a great thing. 10 years will make a big difference.
This brings me to friendship #2. We will call him the boy next door because technically he kind of was. Starting in 8th grade, the boy next door and I rode the same school bus together. Living out in the country, the school bus ride wasn't short by any means. It gave us a lot of time to get to know each other. He was one of those guys that I probably should have dated, but instead, I dated two of his good friends. Yeah, like I said, I am an idiot. Of course, he wasn't on my radar for that sort of relationship until much later in high school. Ladies, don't ever spend 4 years crushing on just one boy. It makes you blind to other options. Trust me. Anyways, once we stopped riding the bus together and I dated two of his friends, the friendship kind of dissolved. Before that, we had a lot of fun times and probably one of the more true friendships I had in high school as it was formed outside of the high school drama.
About 6 months ago, on a whim of sorts, we started hanging out. Other friend, myself, and him ran a 10K. (Ok, they RAN it. I was hungover so I ran/walked it.)It was kind of like starting our friendship over again. After a few more outings, I start to mentally kick myself for losing this friendship in the first place.
The lesson of this story...? Don't get dragged down by drama. It will ruin perfectly good relationships. I was lucky enough to be able to recover the few important ones I lost.
The second lesson of the story... the stuff you see as a big deal in high school really isn't. If you are in high school now, trust me. You will look back and wonder what in the world you were thinking. But, it happens to everyone, so don't feel too bad.
The third lesson... never be obsessed with one boy for 4 years. It won't turn out well. And you will be regretting all the stuff you missed out on.
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